I’m going to have to think/type quick for this post because I only have a half hour until Mike is coming to beat to death a pipe in our wall that keeps spewing forth washer drainage (mmm, yes!)
But I wanted to take a minute to share something with you, reader(s). (If you exist out there.)
Yesterday I went to get my hair trimmed. I like to go to a beauty school for a few reasons 1. Can’t beat $8 for a wash, condition and trim and 2. Refer to #1.
While sitting and chatting with the student who was trimming my hair (kinda funny to talk with someone who’s squatting on the floor to trim your hair – guess it’s a little long these days), the student, mom of 2 preschool kids, mentioned in an outpouring of how smart kids are “these days” that she believed “parents are better parents these days, then they have been in the past.” I thought that one through for a quick second and replied, “Maybe some,” to which she semi-recanted that she agreed that not all parents were good parents.
Thinking over this concept, I’d have to personally disagree. While some new “technologies” have allowed parents to be more effective *ahem, the cloth diaper*, I personally think that the new wave of “selfish parenting” that is on the rise kind of hurts that theory. Many parents, check out the commercials, are not parenting for the benefit of their children, but instead in order to shape the child to best glorify the parent. Don’t I sound like a conservative crazy?
Just in thinking about it, so many parents dress up their kids for the soul purpose of making them look good. And then there’s the “I don’t care” population that is letting their kids control everything; the child-rearing, the marriage, the schedule.
I can imagine there must have been this same kind of thinking in every generation. But I believe, at least from my current viewpoint, that many parents are getting worse. The concept of family is drifting from “quality time around the table together” to meals in the car on the way to the massively-packed schedule that “must be kept up.”
We all pick our lifestyles. But I just have to say that the more I think about how my mom parented my sister and I, the better Mom I am. Sure she made her mistakes. But her heart was prioritizing our whole good – not just giving in to the moment to get us to shut up (though I could testify to the utter temptation at times). My mom gave up so much to invest in Jes and I. She took the extra time-consuming steps to raise us to the best of her ability. She evaluated herself and tried to leave “the bad” behind in an effort to give us her best. She didn’t idolize us, she didn’t shelter us from all consequences, she didn’t hide us away from reality. But she sure did put her heart and soul into molding us into the people we are today.
I guess if my mom were lazy, disconnected, or self-focused then I could agree with the student’s statement that just maybe my parenting could be better than my mom’s. But looking through the lens I have been so blessed to see through… I disagree. I think the beauty student spoke in error. I don’t think parents are better parents these days, then they have been in the past. I believe it is the job of every parent to submit to Christ and then let your parenting be an outpouring of your heart of service.
Thanks, Mom, for helping me catch that error.